Hello my dears! My name is Johanna, and I welcome you to the Johanna Draconis - The Deconstruction Of C-PTSD podcast.
In this episode we will talk about a question that I had on my mind ever since I started fighting back against PTSD. Why do people think PTSD can’t be cured? It is a sentence you can read anywhere. A sentiment deeply ingrained.
They focus on the symptoms but don’t have the hope of curing it. It boggles my mind. There are though things that keep people from being cured, which is important to know. So let us talk about it.
I said on this podcast before, that I have yet to meet a person I thought was a hopeless case on principle. I met a lot of people who were in a dead end and saw no way out. Only walls encompassing them. Or people lost with no idea where to go.
They just are stuck in the storm and walk in circles until they are exhausted. They are most of the time completely hopeless and can’t imagine there is any way out of their situation. Which is understandable - a person can endure only so much before losing hope.
It makes sense to recognize a pointless endeavor and stop wasting energy on it. I absolutely love talking to these people, when they are open to listening. They tell me their situation, I say something and EVERYTHING changes. And I love that SO much.
The moment it clicks and the face falls down in realization and complete and utter disbelief what the solution was. The whole body relaxes, the shoulder loose their weight and relax and they sink back into their chair lost in thought.
And you just see their mind working. Most stuck people are so close to the solution and once you shown them that there are other paths, they start looking for them the next time they get stuck. And I usually know where they are by heart.
If you show them once the vulnerability of PTSD, they often start to turn the tables and question everything they are fed by PTSD and almost charge out of the door. There is a way to break free - that knowledge alone changes everything.
But how do people get stuck and even worse remain stuck? That is what we are going to get into today.
Before we get into the points of being stuck, I want to preface it with the situation of being outmatched. You are engaged with your PTSD, but are unable to finish it. This might be because you came to weak into this situation.
Or you lack the tools. Or the support. Or go at it from the wrong angle. You are not being stuck more in a standstill and usually you get a hint or help that helps you push trough it - and it just takes a bit longer.
They don’t do anything / time will fix things
The first point I am guilty of myself, I didn’t do anything and kind of hoped that time would fix everything. You know the saying “time heals everything?”, well apparently that only applies if you work on it during the time.
Something someone should add. This position just leads to an escalation of PTSD.
They don’t change anything
Which leads us to the second point, that they don’t change anything. You know the people that know the solution, but don’t want to do the solution or change anything? Yes, they are also stuck and usually remain stuck.
Unless of course it is a temporarily stall to give oneself more time to swallow a bitter pill or accept something.
People to afraid to even move / no hope / Paralyzed
Then third are the people that want to change and know they have to, but can’t because they are paralyzed, have no hope, are too afraid to move or the like. That is sometimes a sign that the person is too unstable to deal with it at the moment.
Or that there is another trauma blocking any advancement to this trauma. Trying to stabilize the person, reducing the symptoms and understanding where this paralyzing fear comes from is usually the way to go.
As long as there is an attempt it might take more time, but it can be done. But it is easy to get stuck and remain stuck this way.
And the forth point is, that there are bad therapist. Some are just bad overall and some are just bad for you or your kind of trauma. If you feel like you are just not progressing it might be time to get a new therapist. I know, easier said than done.
The sparseness of resources for PTSD we talked about before on this podcast. Very easy to get stuck on and remain stuck. Though self therapy is possible, but it is quite difficult.
They stop at healing -> need to change therapy type
Then there is the last, but not least point of that they stop at the healed stage. Many are then free of symptoms and think it is all done. Also most seem not to be aware, that you need to switch the approach to PTSD once you reached this state.
You go from a clear target - the obvious trauma - to the roots and deeper works of the trauma. Not doing this just leads to and endless circle of repetition of the PTSD experience.
Take your life back
Last, but definitely not least, I want to encourage you to embark on this journey. Focus on something small you think you can do and then work yourself through it. You gain more and more confidence this way.
Also you regain more and more control of your life again - and of your feelings. If you feel like you are stuck please reach out. I either usually answer per mail or tackle it in an episode. People who are fighting so hard shouldn’t be stuck on some details.
That was it for todays episode, I hope you found it helpful. Hope you are safe and well. And as always, if you have any questions or feedback and the like, please let me know at firstname.lastname@example.org.
More information and transcript you can find as usually under johannadraconis.com/Podcast, information regarding therapy you can find under johannadraconis.com/Therapy and links are in the description.
I hope to see you next time. Watch yourselves and have a wonderful time.